August 6, 2023
I recently realized how powerful being patient is and how fast the ego can wreak havoc unless tamed.
Over the years I’ve had a couple of experiences where I lost my patience with really close friends which didn’t turn out well. At the moment I was convinced my irritation was warranted and expected my friend to come to their senses and everything would work out. Unfortunately to my surprise, my actions (ego) destroyed a dear friendship.
It's not good enough to be right
You also have to be effective.
Impatience affects many parts of our personal and professional relationships. Developing a greater degree of patience can create a nurturing and life-enhancing environment both at home and in the office.
Situations requiring more patience often become the annoyance we’d rather blow off and blame those around us for being foolish or plain stupid when in fact it's a sign to slow down and embrace love. These off-color situations come from the ego.
Patience is a spiritual virtue to employ in order to gain more peace of mind and efficiency in leadership. As I now embrace obtaining my coaching credential it has become clear how impatience has affected my coaching/consulting life.
Patience has a different rhythm and flow. Simply being present and all ears allow my clients more opportunity to come to their self-discovery and many times the answers to their current conundrums slowly come to the surface.
Introducing patience at this all-new level is a game-changer for me and introducing patience into your everyday conversations and lifestyle will pay off big time.
Intentionally expanding the art of patience is an amazing intellectual stimulation. It’s like trying to see the countryside while traveling on a train at 100 miles an hour and then slowing down to 30 miles an hour. You see and enjoy the landscape of life and the relationship which make it up
Begin to notice when your ego (I know what’s best) is attempting to intrude and let it melt away from most of your everyday circumstances.
The dictionary defines ego as:
The self, especially as distinct from the world and ourselves.
In psychoanalysis, the division of the psyche that is conscious most immediately controls thought and behavior, and is most in touch with external reality.
An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit or as Dr. Wayne Dyer said Ego is a way to Edge God Out.
Here are some tips on creating more patience in our everyday life.
1. Practice mindfulness. When you sense your patience is wearing thin, take 3-5 deep breaths through your nose and out through your mouth.
2. Become consciously aware every situation in your life is brought about to enhance your Dharma, not to victimize you.
3. Show acts of kindness when in your car. Allow people in traffic into the lane ahead of you instead of allowing the ego to hijack your kindness and force them to wait.
4. When you feel rushed……slow down this isn’t a race it's a marathon.
5. Be playful. This can be a bit more difficult for some people, but by practicing playfulness you’ll slowly lighten up and CHill-out!
6. Practice being a better listener. When listening to someone for an extended amount of time our minds can begin to wander. As your inner voice starts to loudly remind you of future needs or wants lovingly bring yourself back to fully listening.
7. When a loved one is in your opinion missing out on opportunities that would improve their lives and they object to your insight, simply take 3-5 breaths and calm down and know they will reach their ultimate self-enlightenment when they are good and ready. Hold the space for them to do what's best.
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